I remember making the awful deal with HH through my clinched teeth as we walked away from yet another person telling us our "daughter"was so precious. "Honey, the next person who calls him a she is going to ensure we take him quickly to the barber. I'm not having him mistaken for a girl for the next year or more of his life" HH tried to propose the deal as delicately as he could.
I wasn't going to conceede easily. NOPE. Not this gal. "Darlin' they just aren't looking closely when they speak to us. For for Pete's sake...HE's wearing head to toe navy blue with trains on it. Or, he's wearing little bluejean coveralls with a big huge football and his cute little ballcap covering his endless sea of brown curls. You are being to sensitive. They don't all think he's a she." I replied back sweetly.
"Babe. Everyone who doesn't know us calls HS a girl. Tell you what, if the next people we run into call him a girl while he peacefully is sleeping without a care in the world, we're taking him directly to the Barber. If they call him a him, then you can keep the curls...on his head."
Deal. Good grief, did I just make a pac with the devil himself?
Well, we all know how the story ends. We shortly ran in to new faces who called him a she. I cried like a baby as they cute his locks and he morphed before my eyes. He then screamed bloody murder for the next three years every few weeks whenever we headed to the barber. It was...misery.
Fast forward five and half years after HS was born with his mass of curls. LD was born on a cold Friday mornin' without a hair on her head. She was bald as a billard ball. It took forever for her to grow her hair. As it grew I knew she would not face the same fate as HS. With each new blond ringlet I guarded her hair like it was the next precious jewel. Then it began to grown down her back. I fought the urge to cut it. I was going to perfect the braids and begin putting it in adorable little buns just like Princess Leigh. Ok, so it's all the time flying around like a hornet has been sucking on it, but nope. I'm not cutting it. I began making silent deals with myself: when mom and papa are here, I'll cut it. when it's her 3rd birthday, I'll cut it. after I've taken some adorable shots of her posing with her gynastics leotard on, I'll cut it. With each silent deal I made to myself, I broke it.
| LD getting her hair cut for the first time Nov. 6 2011 |
Until today. OK, so she's 3 3/4 years old. Nevermind that her 4th birthday is next month. Today, I bit the bullet. Today, we (HH, HS, and me) witnessed her milestone. LD got her hair cut. She didn't cry. She didn't fight. She giggled. She watched her show. She was so proud. As for me, I teared up. HH took one look at me as he paused from videotaping a knew before he finished his question, "babe...are you...crying?" I don't think crying is the word. I sobbed.
Her hairdresser gave me two little bags when she was finished cutting LD's hair. One held a tiny blond lock. The first clipping. I admit, it took two times to cut LD's hair. I didn't want to much taken off. HH looked at the back of LD's hair after I thought we were done and said, "what did she clip off?" The hairdresser agreed with my HH. She hadn't really cut much off, if any. I thought it looked great.
The second bag held a rather large lock. The second clipping.
In all, I could only bear to have about 2 inches clipped.
I know, I know, I know...
not a drastic change.
It's called Baby steps.